Is divorce right for me? Planned Separation* can help you decide.
To divorce or not to divorce?
A planned separation can help when:
- Both spouses are uncertain as to whether they should stay married or divorce; or
- One spouse wants a divorce and the other spouse wants to stay married.
WHAT IS A PLANNED SEPARATION?
- Unlike a mere trial separation, a planned separation has all the details worked out, so it does not have all the stress and anxiety that frequently accompany a trial separation.
- Issues are addressed, such as the length of separation, finances, and parenting issues.
- The couple does not have to commit to staying married, just to working on their marriage during the period of separation. Laurie can help at developing options for working on the marriage, there are alternatives to counseling.
- Follow-up sessions ensure everyone stays on track.
RESULTS OF PLANNED SEPARATIONS
- Almost half stay married. These couples find that they have a happier marriage because they were able to work through their issues.
- When the couples do divorce, it is usually a more amicable divorce. This is because all of the couple’s emotions went into working on the marriage, and at the end of the separation they knew with clarity that a divorce was the right thing to do. This mutual acceptance by the couple minimizes conflict during the divorce process and causes less harm to the children.
- Regardless of the outcome, planned separations are successful at getting a couple to be on the same page as to whether to divorce, and being on the same page reduces conflict after the divorce.
*Also known as Controlled Separations